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Books Documentaries, Reviews: THE FOUR AGREEMENTS, Don Miguel Ruiz

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Books, Documentaries, Reviews:  November 6, 2013


Don Miguel Ruiz

One of the books I read when I first got to Maine–at the suggestion of Margaret Rauenhorst–was Don Miguel Ruiz’s THE FOUR AGREEMENTS.

When Melody Pendleton painted the kitchen, I was putting away “stuff” from my kitchen desk and found a little handout I had put there of Ruiz’s four agreements.

The book, of course, explains each one in depth, and I probably need to review it again.  But here they are:

Be Impeccable With Your Word:

Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.  Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don’t Take Anything Personally:

Nothing others do is because of you.  What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.  When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Don’t Make Assumptions:

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best:

Your best is going to change from moment to moment.  It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.  Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.

This recipe is a pretty tall order.  It’s hard to break old family “tapes” where making assumptions and taking actions personally and NOT being impeccable with your word–no matter how hard–is how things have worked.  And how “things” get so messed up so quickly.

But even the small movements I have made in my own life in the direction of these “four agreements” has made my own life better in so many ways.

Written by louisaenright

November 6, 2013 at 10:52 am

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